Partner Blaming Husband for Child Taking off His Clothes Angers Internet

The internet has slammed a partner after they blamed their husband for their child taking off his clothes around the house.

Published on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a partner under the username u/efalcone shared their story in order to receive opinions from the “AITA” community.

“My toddler is going through a phase where he’s copying his dad constantly,” the original poster (OP) began. “One of the things he’s decided to copy is taking off his clothes.”

Above, a couple argue on the couch. Published to Reddit’s r / AmITheA ** hole forum, a partner has been bashed for blaming their husband for their child not wearing a shirt in the house.
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They believe the reason their child is doing this is that OP’s husband walks around their house shirtless. When asking their husband to stop doing it so their son would stop as well, he got “offended” as he said that he’s “barely ever shirtless” around their child. OP thinks it’s not a big favor but their husband is angry that they suggested that he was the reason their son takes off his clothes.

Newsweek reached out to u/efalcone for comment. We could not verify the details of this case.

An expert’s opinion on children copying their parents

“It’s expected that kids will copy their parents and a natural part of development,” Dr. Mona Delahooke, author of Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behaviors and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids told Newsweek.

Delahook gave some insight on her thoughts on the viral Reddit post: “I would ask is why is this a problem for the parent? Maybe it’s cold and a health issue, but if not, it’s a good idea to allow kids to follow their own inclinations. Also, the child not wanting to wear the shirt may have nothing to do with modeling at all. Behaviors are just the tip of the iceberg, with endless explanations that are invisible.”

She suggested it could possibly be a tactile sensitivity—where one is more sensitive to a particular touch—where the child feels better not wearing a shirt. If that is the case, OP’s husband wearing a shirt around the child wouldn’t help.

“One way to find out is to ask the child why they don’t want to wear the shirt. Some toddlers can answer those kinds of questions! When parents respect some of the child’s choices in toddlerhood (as long as they are safe, of course), children gain a sense of agency, and learn about themselves,” Delahooke added.

Newsweek has published an article similar to this, the best parenting tips from a childcare professional. Other similar articles regarding toddlers include a mother who shared her three parenting hacks for toddlers “that actually work” and a parent who did n’t let her toddler paint at school.

Redditor reactions

“[You’re the a**hole] for blaming your husband for something that all toddlers just do,” u/Aunty_Fascist wrote, receiving the top comment of over 16,000 upvotes. And personally I don’t see what the issue is, if a kid wants to walk around without a shirt in the privacy of your own home why does that bother you? Let the kid do his thing.”

“Tell me this is your first kid without telling me you’re a first time parent. [You’re the a**hole]. And you’re battles are just beginning,” u/Available_Return6504 said.

“[You’re the a**hole]. All toddlers go through a ‘taking off their clothes’ phase. You can’t blame your husband for being comfortable in his own home,” u/SpiritualLemon777 commented.

“Toddlers are like drunk college students. They will take off their clothes at every whim, for no reason at all,” u/Daligheri pointed out. “He will do far worse in public than take off his clothes, I promise you. He’ll grow out of it. [You’re the a**hole]”

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